Experience Self-Transformation

There are moments in our lives that thrust us into the phases of self-transformation, regardless if we are seeking self-transformation. The moments could be in the form of great transitional moments like graduating college, birth of a child, death, divorce, or marriage. There are also times when we feel stagnant in our lives and can feel a need for change. In both scenarios we go through seven phases until self-transformation is complete.

The  7 Stages of Transformation

The first phase is Resolving. We must first recognize that a change must occur. This may be a moment when you have hit rock bottom. Often, people who struggle with substance abuse have this experience before entering into rehab. When you have accepted resolution for change, then you are ready for the next phases.

The second phase is Retiring. This is a necessary step of separation from anyone, any habit, or environment that supports what you are trying to remove yourself from. Your daily routines may be the most difficult thing to restructure. Removing the people that support the habit, behavior, or environment is also very difficult and emotionally trying.

Structuring is the third phase of self-transformation. This is the action of establishing new daily routines, relationships, and environments to support the positive and renewing change.

During the fourth phase of Dissolving, you are chiseling away at your old identity to birth the new you. This will be an emotional change that can also manifest physically. For example, a woman that has survived an abusive relationship may enter this phase as a chubby brunette, and a year later may surface as a svelte blonde. This is the act of dissolving the old self, and discovering a new self.

Affirmations and verbal mantras can be very empowering during the Reforming phase – phase number five. In this phase you are establishing new thought patterns, and plans of action for your new self. For example, you may be free from anti-depressants, and now you are establishing a new bedtime routine to wind down without your daily dose of sleeping pills.

In phase six we begin to Solidify our new self. This phase must be entered with great care and caution. Our new self can easily fall into old patterns or similar relationships which may cause us to revert back to the old self. You have to stay on your toes, and have a solid plan of action. For example, in new relationships firm boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not acceptable must be firmly in place. In this phase, you must know the needs of your new self.

Lastly, you will Return to daily life. Your co-workers or family members that have remained in your life may resist the change in you. The self-transformation will be successful as long as you are determined and motivated to keep growing into your new self. Just remember this word of advice:

Those who mind the change don’t matter. Those who matter don’t mind the change.

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